Nine Years of Grace and Nine Lessons from God’s Word

Today marks nine beautiful years since we said “I do.” We are filled with gratitude to God for bringing us this far. Marriage, as we have come to learn, is not just about the joy-filled moments, but about faithfulness through all the seasons of life: the highs, the lows, and the unexpected in-betweens.

July 16, 2016

Through it all, God has remained faithful. His love has anchored us, His Word has guided us, and His grace has sustained us.

One verse that captures this journey for us is:

“Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.”

Proverbs 19:14 (NIV)

9 years later

This reminds us that marriage is a gift from God: one we must treasure, nurture, and rely on Him to sustain. As we reflect on the past nine years, we want to share nine simple yet powerful lessons we have learned that have made our marriage stronger, rooted in Scripture and a commitment to love.

1. Keep God at the Center

Marriage works best when God is at the centre—not just invited in when there’s trouble, but daily trusted as the foundation.

“Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain.”

Psalm 127:1 (NIV)

2. Choose Love Daily

Love is more than a feeling—it’s a choice to forgive, to show kindness, and to stick together no matter what.

“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”

1 Peter 4:8 (NIV)

3. Communicate with Grace

Talk openly, honestly, and kindly. Don’t let silence or harsh words grow into walls between you.

“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt…”

Colossians 4:6 (NIV)

4. Forgive Quickly and Often

No one is perfect. We all make mistakes. Don’t hold grudges—let grace flow freely.

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

Ephesians 4:32 (NIV)

5. Serve One Another

Marriage isn’t 50/50—it’s 100/100. Serve your spouse selflessly, and joy will follow.

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition... Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.”

Philippians 2:3 (NIV)

6. Be Content and Grateful

Be thankful for who your spouse is, not just what they do. Gratitude creates joy and contentment in the home.

“Godliness with contentment is great gain.”

1 Timothy 6:6 (NIV)

7. Pray Together and For Each Other

There’s a unique strength that comes from holding hands and lifting your hearts to God together.

“For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”

Matthew 18:20 (NIV)

8. Laugh Often, Enjoy Each Other

Don’t let life’s busyness rob you of laughter. Find joy in the little things: inside jokes, shared memories, silly moments.

“A cheerful heart is good medicine...”

Proverbs 17:22 (NIV)

9. Keep Growing Together

Keep learning, dreaming, and walking forward hand in hand. Never stop investing in each other.

“Two are better than one... If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.”

Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 (NIV)

Dr. Michael & Dr. Mary Agronah

To every couple reading this: your marriage is a journey, not a destination. Take it one day at a time, with God leading the way.

Here’s to more years of love, grace, and growing together in Christ. Happy anniversary to us!